Really Loving A Man Means He Feels Free

Yesterday, I heard one of my favorite spiritual teachers, Marianne Williamson, say "Really loving someone means they feel free in a relationship with you." Something about this resonated deeply with my ideas about "The Art of Loving a Man." Could a man's attraction, devotion and commitment to you be dependent on the level of freedom he feels in the relationship? When I say freedom I am referring to two things: 

 1. Physical freedom to pursue his passions/hobbies, career and have alone time

2. Emotional freedom to be who he is and not be criticized or judged 

 A question to ask yourself is - How does your man experience more freedom as a result of your relationship? Does he feel like he can be himself and be vulnerable with you? Does he feel like he can state his needs and desires and not be flooded with negative emotion?

A man's greatest fear is loss of freedom and becoming emotionally overloaded by your needs and feelings. Experiencing these fears in a relationship make a man feel less freedom in his life and therefore make a man resistant to want more or give more in a relationship. 

The only way for a Goddess to allow a man to feel freedom is for her to feel full and whole in her own life with or without him. This means that she is centered and in touch with her feelings. A Goddess makes a man feel free because she can communicate her needs and not overwhelm him. She is in tune with herself and can have a difficult conversation without blame and criticism. She can take "No" for an answer and  soothe herself while keeping her heart soft and open. This makes a man feel like he does not have to be responsible for a woman's feelings all the time and walk on egg shells not to upset her.  A Goddess has her own plans if she is not invited somewhere. She has an interesting life that gives her something to focus on and put her energy into. All of these things make a man feel free. He feels free to be himself and in turn inspired to be a better man - a woman's hero.