Be the Shoreline and Let Him Be the Waves

When your  man is angry, tired, overwhelmed or withdrawn what do you do? Do you make it about you and your feelings and immediately tell him how horrible he is acting? Or are you able to see things from his perspective and give him space to feel and do what ever it is he needs? Do you give him space and remain content and in your happy place until he returns?  Relationships were not meant to always run smooth and easy. They involve two human beings that are constantly shifting moods and getting triggered by events and people. With this said, I think it is very important to welcome the bumps in the road and learn to navigate them with grace. The Art of Loving a Man involves learning to stand still when the waters are rough. It means being the steady shoreline and letting him be the waves. A real man needs a woman to hold the loving space while he flounders a bit in the chaos of his own mind. Of course this does not include inappropriate behavior. This just means allowing him emotional space without making it always about you and your needs. It requires a tremendous amount of control over your emotions. It requires the ability to not take things personal and have compassion then letting him find his way back to you if he is feeling distant or angry. A good man will always find his way back to you (emotionally), but he needs to see and feel that you are steady. This is what attracts him to you and keeps his attraction high. He knows you trust yourself and you trust him.  The question is not how to avoid the rough times in a relationship. The question is how do you react when things are not running smooth. The Art of Loving a Man means you do not overwhelm him with your negative emotions and voice to him how wrong he is. Instead you stay calm and allow him space to feel and be. Then he will return with more love then you can imagine.