Acceptance and Love

Photo by, Roger Houwen

"When a woman doesn't try to change a man, he feels accepted. This does not mean a woman must feel that he is perfect in every way. It means she trusts him to make his own improvements."

Quote by author, John Gray marsvenus.com

   Accepting a man as he is can be quite an extraordinary feat. It requires tremendous compassion and patience. It also requires a woman to be firm in her own sense of self love and self confidence. I use to think accepting a man as he is meant admitting defeat. Now I have learned it is in fact very powerful. It is powerful because it reflects a woman's self love.  This is because if you accept your man, and all his not so perfect ways, then it allows you to stay centered and remain calm and loving. Acceptance is a beautiful feeling. This does not mean you cannot request something or you cannot voice your feelings. It just means you are no longer wasting all your precious mental and emotionally energy trying to make things different. You are going with the energy instead of against it. You are affirming to the universe that you trust that it has your best intentions in life and that love will prevail. Accepting a man, is trusting a man. This is one of his #1 needs. When you trust your man he feels it deep inside and is compelled to be better. He needs your trust and acceptance to be your hero. The next time you find yourself thinking about all the ways he is wrong take a moment to focus on what he does right and feel your heart soften. He will sense it in your voice or the gentleness of your touch and he will relax, open his heart and do better for himself and for his woman.