Healing your Heart with Feminine Energy
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Hello Goddesses!
I was working with a wonderful client yesterday. She is a true Goddess, fully living her life from pure feminine energy. She had the idea to list feminine ways to heal her heart and how to spend this single girl season of her life. I was so excited! What a great and fun idea! Together, we came up with lists of things that describe the feminine way for both paths.
This stirred up a realization I have had lately that healing and learning to live from your feminine energy are synonymous. Let me explain. When we begin the path to healing, we really are trying to learn to open back up our hearts and to learn the feminine art of feeling deeply again. When we embark on the healing journey, we are also learning the feminine art of choosing love as a priority. (The feminine is courageous and brave and always places love above her own fears.) A feminine woman learns to heal by surrendering all of the controlling thoughts and behaviors in order to unbury her authentic self and vulnerabilities.
The more I think about it, the more I realize how healing and being a feminine energy woman are so interrelated. Let me give you another important example. A feminine woman must always first find her inner power and create a solid emotional connection with herself before she can feel safe yielding to a masculine man’s leadership and direction. This creation of inner power and connection is the core of the healing journey, and this feminine ability to yield is central to the feminine and masculine dynamic.
“This creation of inner power and connection is the core of the healing journey”
The final way healing and feminine energy practice work together is through the path of surrender. A feminine woman must stay in the present moment and surrender her past. She must let go of controlling life and her man, and she must allow things to be (unfold naturally). She must have faith in her inner magnetism and allow things, people, and love to be attracted to her radiance and light.
When she surrenders, she flows and when she flows, she offers life energy, radiance, and play to the masculine. In essence, she creates light inside herself and then turns it over as a sacred offering to the masculine. Remember, this light and radiance fulfills a man. It gives him purpose, and it inspires him to conquer his dreams and fears and become a better man.
“She creates light inside herself and then turns it over as a sacred offering to the masculine”
So, as you read the lists below, know that the feminine way serves so many goals. It heals the brokenness from our separation to our true selves, and it inspires the masculine to be a greater version of himself for his partner, family, and the world. I call us women Goddesses for a reason! We embody Love. We are the spark of life itself. Learning to live from your feminine energy is not just about finding a boyfriend or husband; it is a spiritual path. A living out of an ancient assignment given to women. Do this work with intention, discipline, and sacredness and learn to let go of your fears and old pain so only love remains.
Feminine ways to heal:
Make love and relationships a priority.
Focus on feelings versus thinking. The feminine superpower is her ability to be in touch deeply with her feelings (good and bad). Learn to feel your feelings as sensations in your body.
Connect to your own heart and learn to feel/navigate the various rhythms and turbulence. (Learn to feel discomfort without resisting)
Let go of control and surrender to Life/God/Higher power.
Stay open-hearted and be vulnerable.
Enjoy sensual experiences (present moment practices).
Create attraction from within – radiance, sensuality, love, healing, spontaneous delight.
Engage your creative energy.
Develop standards - know what you want and don’t want.
Learn to be patient with self and others.
Learn the nature of thinking - you are not your thoughts. Learn to witness them and let go.
Be loving and kind to yourself. Compassion for self allows compassion for others.
Make feeling good a priority. Think thoughts that feel good and do things that feel good.
Beauty/Exercise – Take care of your body, skin, and hair.
Present Moment Practice – Cleaning, breathing, reading, walking, meditating, actively listening to a loved one, decorating, etc.
Simplify and detox your home, schedule, people, and/or life.
Make self-care a priority – bubble baths, friends, massages, healthy food, nighttime routine, etc.
Learn how to give to yourself (masculine gifts of time, attention, gifts, and care) when single or when not getting them from partner.
Allowing others (especially men) to do things for you. (Art of receiving)
Create and enjoy emotional independence. (Ex. I can make myself feel good and safe no matter what.)
Connect with nature.
Enjoy unconditional love, beauty and tenderness of animals.
Nourish relationships with friends and family. (Art of relational enjoyment)
Learn to communicate in a non-threatening way. Always make cooperation and connection the goal, not blame and being right. The goal is to create connection, not create more distance.
How to spend single time as a feminine woman:
Self-care - exercise, facials, naps, healthy food, good friends, manicures, relax time, beauty, outdoors
Learn what feels good to you. What turns you on in life? Develop your passions and learn about your preferences.
Nurture and spend quality time with friends and family.
Take classes and do fun activities (college courses, art, cooking, museums).
Trips (with friends or family).
Go out and have fun flirting.
Learn to feel safe and fulfilled alone - enjoy sacred alone time.
Enjoy focusing on only your needs and wants.
Nurture relationship with Life/God/Higher Power.
Do healing work – let go of inner blockages (past pain/triggers), create inner strength, and solid emotional foundation.
Develop your own style – what makes you feel good – enjoying your own beauty and femininity.
Put your heart and soul into your career with the knowledge that you will always make room for love and a relationship.
Much Love,
Malena xoxo