Don't Make Him Your God

Hello Goddess Friends,

Today, I was in deep thought wondering - Why do women really want a romantic relationship anyways? Is it to share love or is to get love? If it is to share love, then that means a woman must be full of love and has enough to give away. On the other hand, if the goal is to get love, then that means a woman has a void and is seeking to fill it. These are two very different goals with two very different outcomes.

“Why do women really want a romantic relationship anyways?”

Let’s talk about this void. What is it and why do so many women feel it? In essence, this void is a place of wanting to be valued, seen, and loved. So, what if the intimate love we are trying to get is really a substitute for a relationship to the “Divine?” Now, I don’t mean the traditional God of our major religions. I mean divine power as a feeling. As a feeling of love, fulfillment, and bliss.

“What if the love we are trying to get is really a substitute for a relationship to the “Divine?”

What if women have replaced their need for a connection to the divine with a connection to a man? They do this in the hopes of meeting their deep primal need for value and connection. May I be bold enough to declare that a man is the new God for a woman? Think about it - a majority of women come to relationships without a good sense of inner worth or connection to themselves. They don’t have the practice of loving the divine and letting divine energy love them back. Therefore, they seek out a man hoping he will fill this role for them.

“May I be bold enough to declare that a man is the new God for a woman?”

The purpose of a relationship has been hijacked. It used to be a place to share love between two people. This love would be the love a woman creates with her divine higher power (i.e. God of your choosing, spirituality, or nature). Nowadays, a romantic relationship IS our higher power. A romantic “relationship” is being used for the wrong reason. It is now entered into to get all the love you are missing. This comes from a place of lack and that is why relationships fail. They were not meant to be used this way. A man cannot fulfill the existential yearning we have to connect with ourselves and the divine.

“Nowadays, a romantic relationship IS our higher power”

Another important point is - what if men feel this pressure to be everything for a woman and they unconsciously run from this responsibility? Men do not want to be responsible for a woman’s deep sense of self, worth, and happiness. Men know it will decimate their natural urge to remain free. Especially free from emotionally carrying a woman. I think the phenomena of women chasing men and men pulling away carries these dynamics within it.

“Men do not want to be responsible for a woman’s deep sense of self, worth, and happiness”

So, what is the answer?….. Women must first find their divine source of love and fulfillment. This does not have to be a religious experience per se. It can be experienced through meditation, prayer, religion, nature, universal principles or spirituality. It will be personal for each person.

This is the natural work of a feminine woman. This is her mission actually. She is a “feeling” creature and she searches for the roots of what gives birth to her deep sense of self and her emotions. She never looks to a man to replace her connection to her divinity, feminine heart, and earth/nature. She always fills her own cup first and then she comes to her masculine king with her gifts. The Goddess knows at this point in history, she is tasked with the responsibility to resurrect the true purpose of the romantic relationship which is…. a place to share her heart, light, and divine love.

Much Love,

Malena xoxo

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