The Art of Feminine Love
No one would believe me if I told them how amazing my marriage and relationship is. Sometimes, it even surprises me! I mean I have suffered in relationships since I was 15 yrs old. When I was 16 yrs old, I read a fascinating book entitled “Codependent No More.” It described me in each chapter with every detail. Then, after a failed marriage (2012), I read about being a “Love Addict” and that was a mean wake up call. So basically, I sucked in relationships and always found myself with a man that triggered all my insecurities. Years of therapy didn’t help much and asking a man to not do the things that triggered me didn’t work either. Then, I came across 2 things that created a magical formula for transformation. Becoming aware of the ego-mind and its relentless negativity and the feminine and masculine energy dance. With these tools, I have created a romance reserved for fairy tale novels. My biggest tool by far is my feminine energy. It is such a powerful change agent. What do I mean by using my feminine energy? Let me simplify this…
Letting go of controlling my man (what he says and does)
Respecting his masculine decisions (this does not mean he is always right)
Never engage in mothering my man (giving him advice on work, health, or his family)
Never nag, criticize, nor blame when I communicate
Stop managing my man and the relationship
Learning to feel deeply and connect to my man’s heart with my vulnerability
Spending more time flowing and being instead of thinking
Learning to receive my man’s love, affection, gifts, and acts of heroism
Allowing my man to lead the relationship timeline
Becoming present and living more fully in the moment
Loving my body and taking care of my feminine beauty
Spending more time in nature
Allowing myself to be free, fun, and delightfully playful
So with this magical tool, I am deeply adored, wanted, loved, and romanced by my husband, El Guapo. He puts my needs and feelings ahead of his own. He is drawn to me like a magnet constantly wanting to spend time with me. He tells me I am beautiful every day. He takes out the garbage and fixes the broken gate lol! He is tuned in to me and knows when I am tired, overwhelmed, or sad. He offers to order take out because he knows it will make me happy. He is generous with money. He always caresses me and holds me close. He knows I love to hear “I love you” before we fall asleep and never forgets. His passion during sexy time is insane! Need I say more?
He is drawn to me like a magnet
All of these gifts are a direct result of the feminine and masculine energy dance. He feels like a respected, honored, and appreciated man. This inspires him to cherish, romance, and devote his love and direct all his attention toward me. Most of the women that approach me for coaching operate from their masculine energy (which is the opposite of my list above) and their men do not feel the least bit inspired to cherish their feelings or do anything to ensure their happiness. Instead, these men feel their women are in competition with them for power, control, and respect. My main job is to coach women on how to release this masculine energy so they can be loved and adored. Change your primary energy and watch things change.
Men feel their women are in competition with them for power, control, and respect.
Yet, women either can’t see how masculine they are or refuse to let go of this way of being. If you are a reader of my blog, then you know the hard work you must do to begin the letting go process. My advice to a new reader is to try it a bit and see how the man in your life reacts. You will be pleasantly surprised. Then, keep it up until it feels comfortable and it becomes natural. You will be motivated by the masculine gifts you receive. I promise. :)
Much Love,
Malena xoxo
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