Love & The Law of Attraction
One of the greatest teachers in my healing journey to love and happiness has been Abraham Hicks! For those of you who know Abraham’s teachings, my fondness for the them will resonate deeply with you. For those that do not know of Abraham, let me try to explain. Abraham is a spirit guide/universal intelligence that is channeled through a woman named Esther Hicks. I know this might sound a bit strange, but then again, we are living in really strange times right now (lol)! I see it this way - the proof of channeling and supernatural experiences is not worth trying to figure out. For me, what is important is the message and Abraham has a wonderful message!
Their message is that you are a spirit in a human body. In your body, here on earth, you are having experiences that allow you to experience the contrast between love and fear with the goal of moving toward greater love and peace (aka feeling good and happy). The goal of moving toward love is to reconnect with the spiritual part of you that is connected to God/Universal Intelligence/Love and continues to exist and vibrate in a realm that we cannot see.
The goal of moving toward love is to reconnect with the spiritual part of you that is connected to God/Universal Intelligence/Love
With this said, the teachings describe an important tool we have to connect to our spirit self/source. This tool is our emotions! Our emotions are meant to be used as a measuring stick to align with our spirit self/source. The idea is our chosen thoughts evoke emotions of love or fear. Loving thoughts keep us in alignment, and fearful thoughts keep us out of alignment. Loving thoughts also allow positive attraction while fearful thoughts allow for negative attraction.
Therefore, the spiritual work we are tasked with is to use our willpower to choose loving thoughts over fearful ones. Put another way - vibrate with love, not fear, in order to invoke positive emotion/vibration that is in alignment with our Source/God/Love/Spirit Self.
The better your thought makes you feel, the closer you are to your spirit’s vibe and the closer you are to your goal of attracting more peace, love, and your personal goals for happiness.
The better your thought makes you feel, the closer you are to your spirit’s vibe
On the other hand, the worse your thoughts make you feel (i.e. thoughts that are fueled by fear and anxiety), the more you are not only pushing away good things but also attracting bad things (i.e. things you do not want).
A few primary teachings from Abraham are:
Your emotions are a guidance system
The most important relationship is between you and you
Thoughts turn into things
You get what you focus on (in essence)
So what does this have to do with love and relationships? EVERYTHING! The main point about love is that your spirit still exists in a realm connected to Love/God/Universal Intelligence and that is the first relationship you must nurture and cultivate. It is the relationship between you (earthly, fearful you) and you (spirit, full of love, intelligence). This is your primary and ultimate source of security and love. Therefore, this is the relationship you should tend to first. This is the key to a beautiful relationship with a man. Connect first to your source and do not make him your source!
Connect first to your source and do not make him your source!
I believe relationships are so difficult because we have mistakenly made our primary relationship to be with each other (man and woman). We are trying to get from each other what is not natural. We have an existential craving for love and connection that is continuous, secure and complete. Yet, the only real source of continuous and unwavering love and security comes from connecting to our inner being. This can be a religious experience or spiritual depending on your beliefs.
So when a woman connects first to her source, she needs no other person to make her feel complete. She is already complete, whole and full of love. She then finds a partner that compliments her life and she shares her wholeness and love with him. She does not depend on a man to make her feel anything. Her primary relationship to her source fulfills her and gives her a sense of being loved, wanted, and secure.
Imagine being in a relationship with someone like this. Imagine how easy it would be. When you are this woman, you rarely take things personally, you rarely feel needy, you feel free to be open and vulnerable, you have plenty of love to give, and you never feel desperate. You can be selective because you do not feel desperate. You feel worthy and valuable. You bring a fullness to a relationship that other women do not. Thus, a man knows you are high value because he senses you rely on your own source for ultimate love and fulfillment. He knows you will not demand and depend on him to always make you happy. He then feels free! This feeling of freedom makes him want to be in your presence and commit to you over and over again. You are considered a Goddess in his eyes because you are a source of love and light. You are in this world but are connected to something much greater.
When you are this woman, you rarely take things personally, you rarely feel needy, you feel free to be open and vulnerable
On another note, the more you feel lovingly connected to your source, the higher your vibrational thought is and the stronger you will attract relationships that resonate at this level. Love and relationships actually get easier. Remember that you get what you focus on. When you feel connected to source/love, it is easier to focus on love and in turn get more love!
For a great link to a good Abraham YouTube video, click here!
I know this is a lot of info, but let it sink in and you may find it speaks to you. I used this philosophy in my transformation and it created miracles in my life. :)
Much Love,
Malena
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