Abandonment & Control
Hello Goddess Friends!
So I promised I would give an update on my situation with El Guapo being away for work (almost 2 years). Great news! I think I killed the abandonment trigger for good. Seriously I don’t feel any fire around the issue anymore. It’s strange sometimes I actually try to feel it cause I am so amazed it is gone. I mean maybe it is his sweet and attentive behavior while he is away or the grand effort he puts into making plans for us to see eachother each month. Whatever it is I am wasting no energy feeling bad and the universe is not testing me anymore. At least for now…… I feel very loved and attended to. :)
I killed the abandonment trigger!
So since my mantra is always “Relationships do not exist to make you happy, they exist to make you grow” let’s move on to the next healing lesson for me - Masculine Control. How am I doing?….pretty good, but only because I have built up my will power and ability to keep my mouth shut even when I know better and can do better. Now I do not mean I keep my mouth shut like a submissive wifey. I mean that I am strong on the inside which allows me to surrender and genuinely respect and defer to my masculine man’s ideas, desires, and opinions. I let him lead!!!! It’s sooo HARD sometimes, yet if I want my man to be giving, protecting and cherish my feelings it is this energy dance that makes it happen. So everyday I practice the art of not controlling my man in romance, business, health and finance. I do mess up and slip sometimes but I am quick to breathe and allow the controlling need to pass through my body. I can literally breathe it away. The funny thing about masculine men is when they feel respected and do not feel controlled they give you the world.
I am strong on the inside which allows me to surrender and genuinely respect and defer to my masculine man’s ideas
With all the energy I am not wasting trying to control El Guapo (husband) and our relationship, I find that my days are filled with focusing on my coaching business, kids, family and friends. When you are a healthy feminine woman you are a bit self-centered (in a good way) and you focus on feeling good. Your masculine man admires this deeply and makes it his mission to help you continue feeling good. El Guapo actually told me, “My only goal in life is to work hard, take care of you and give you everything you desire to be happy.” Unbelievably romantic! So my update is another lesson in the gifts of the feminine and masculine energy dance.
Much Love,
Malena
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