It's Your Out of Control Emotions That Make Men Run

A few days ago, I received an email from Katarina Phang. The title was - “You Gotta Let Him Fall In Love First Before He Can Put Up With Your Emotional Diarrhea” It was brilliant and said so much in so few words. I think this is the essence of why so many men withdraw and pull away in the beginning of a relationship or when dating. If a man has not had time to develop an emotional connection with you then your emotional outbursts and drama seems ridiculous to him. He is not invested emotionally in you and sees your inability to manage your emotions as a liability and a major future problem . So it is your duty as a Goddess to get your emotions, triggers and reckless thought patterns under control before you start to catch feelings for a man. This way you can show him that you are one of the few women that are centered, emotionally in touch/in control and therefore fun and easy to be with. This is the woman a man will chase and pursue. Men are sensitive creatures inside and they have strong intuition. They know how difficult a woman will be within a few months of dating her. In a nutshell men become emotionally unavailable when they sense you will be to difficult to be in a relationship with. That is why you hear stories about a man who has been afraid to commit suddenly marry a particular woman. She triggered his commitment button because he feel safe and good in her presence and knew she would not be difficult to be with. This is hard to hear, but long ago someone said it to me and I woke up and changed. Now things are very different in my life. See a little snippet from Katarina’s email below.

Hi Malena, 

A lot of you stall your relationship with so much emotional diarrhea that comes from skewed expectations.

All your insecurities and unresolved issues are being brought to the forefront in dating and relationship and in the process push most guys away.  That's the history of why most men you date are "EUM."

Cause they are scared of the drama you bring into their lives.