7 Qualities That Make Men Want You

I think one of the biggest turning points for me was when I started to study the male perspective on relationships and love. I had never put much thought into what a man thought about relationships because I was always so concerned only with what I desperately needed as a woman. If you are serious about changing your relationship dynamics then I highly suggest you check out some of the great male relationship coaches and authors. If you are like me once you read their work you might be a bit embarrassed by your past behaviors. My top 4 male coaches/authors are Christian Carter, John Gray, Mat Boggs and David Deida. Explore their work and you will have many aha moments! I have posted a blog below by Mat Boggs. He has an incredible e-book entitled "Cracking the Man Code."

Much Love,

Malena

7 Qualities That Make Men Want You

By Mat Boggs - http://crackingthemancode.tumblr.com

......it’s interesting because when I talk to my guy friends, and for years, we’d do camping trips and the guys would sit around and we’d talk about, “Hey, man. How are things going with Kim?” and, “How are things going with Lisa?” and the one word they kept using to describe it when it was really good, they would say, “Oh man, it’s awesome.” I would say, “Well, what do you like about her?” And they’d say, “You know what? She’s just cool. She’s just really, really cool.” And I’m sure you’ve heard that before and guys describing women that they absolute love being in a relationship as. They say, “You know what? She’s just cool.”

So I thought I would take and unpack what does it look like? What is that experience for a man? When he’s describing a woman as “cool,” how is that expressed? What does that actually look like in the relationship? So I’ve come up with seven things, seven ways of being, qualities that women have that generate a very cool experience for a man. Now, before I give you these, I know it might sound like a tall order, but let’s face it: we all want an amazing partner in our life. We want a partner who’s got amazing qualities. You want a partner who has amazing qualities as well. So I know you want a ton of stuff in your man, so even those this might be a tall order, just hear it out because this is authentically what men want in a woman.

First – and granted, this is in no particular order because all of these things are important, but I’ll put this one first – is sexual attraction. Yes, we want a woman that we can have amazing sex with that we’re highly attracted to. But even more importantly than that is a woman who, herself, owns her own sexiness, feels attractive, and wants to have sex with us because, let me say, if the sex dies, the relationship dies.

Number two is a man wants a woman who’s going to respect him. What this means is that she respects his thoughts, his opinions, and she treats him with respect, she says please, she says thank you, she really appreciates and celebrates him for the things that he’s doing and that if your faiths lines up, great, but if not, then at least you have respect for each other’s faiths.

Number three is a man wants a woman who knows what she wants. One of the things that drives men crazy is when you say, “Hey, babe. So what do you want to do?” and a woman says, “I don’t know. Whatever you want to do is fine with me.” Like it drives us crazy. We want to know how to deliver happiness for you, so a woman who knows what she wants is easier to please and just makes the experience more cool for us.

Number four is a guy wants a woman who he can consider his best friend, as I’m sure you do too, right? Where you like the same things, the same types of activities, and a huge part of being best friends is that you have the same sense of humor. Men want a woman who’s willing to be goofy and be playful and that you guys are able to laugh at the same types of things, that you’re able to quote movies and bring that kind of humor into the relationship. Having a best friend quality is huge for a great relationship.

Number five: men want a woman who is low on the drama scale, right? Low on the crazy scale. Now, why would I say low instead of no drama? Well, it’s because none of us have no drama. We all have challenges, we all have stuff that arises in our life, but a woman who can make a mountain into a molehill instead of a molehill into a mountain is a huge asset. A woman who can actually bring more peace into a man’s life versus more stress and more drama into a man’s life is going to be a huge asset for him, something he absolutely wants in his woman.

Number six is a woman who fuels his freedom. Now, what do I mean by freedom, right? I’m not saying a woman who lets him go off and pursue other women or sleep with other women, but a woman who actually supports him in having guy time, going out, hanging out with his friends, pursuing his hobbies, a woman’s who’s got enough confidence to let him go do those things, and guess what? He’s going to be actually a better partner for you when you do this because you’re going to allow him to recharge his batteries, refuel himself, and reignite his interest and really pouring into you. And on that same token is a woman who fuels not just his freedom, but her own freedom, woman who has he own activities, a woman who has her own friends and own interests because when we’re out doing the things that we want to do, we want to know that you’re also enjoying life and expanding in yourself and doing things that you love.

Number seven, and this is a big one, is loyalty, is someone who’s in our corner. We want a woman just like we want to be there for you, not just during the great times, but when times get rough, you want to know that your man isn’t going to run in the face of challenge or in the face of fear. Same thing with us is we want a woman who has staying power, who can weather the storm because we know that there are going to be times when we’re winning, when we’re on top, and there are going to be times when we’re not, when the cards are stacked against us, when we’re facing challenges in life. And to be able to look by our side and see our woman who has the fortitude and the courage and the strength to bond together and more through the challenge together, that is a very, very powerful way of being in a relationship.