Let Go of Control and Create Space for Him to Give and Love You
Relationships are not easy. They are constantly pushing you up against your own limits. They force you to transform or fail. For a woman practicing feminine principles, a relationship with a man can drive her to the edge of the abyss and push her over into darkness. No one can tell her what lies at the bottom, but it is her courage and willingness to surrender that brings her a relationships greatest gifts. These gifts include the gift of being cherished and loved by a masculine man. It is trust and faith in herself and then her man that catapults her man into his role as provider, protector and guardian of her heart.
The dance of the feminine woman and masculine man is not for the faint of heart. It is for those that are tired of living out the same old battles. It is for those that know that even though we live in the 21st century, a man is supposed to be respected and he is suppose to have control and lead. It is for those who know a woman is to be cherished and is naturally patient, passive, soft and vulnerable. This Yin and Yang energy creates a polarity attraction that is hot as fire. This energy creates a flow that can be effortless. Yet, women in this day and age are so disconnected from themselves and the rhythm of their own hearts they have to control everything. Women today feel they have to manage and control the relationship and the man. They feel they need to be equals and they need things to go their way or they will scream, kick, manipulate and belittle a man into submission. Women do not want to wait and allow a man to step into his masculine role allowing him to love, cherish and adore her. I believe women are afraid a man might not do it and they will be disappointed. So they jump into the masculine role and initiate texts, phone calls, dates and plan weekends get-aways. They buy gifts, cook and serve meals, play therapist and give endless advice to men on how to fix their problems. Women these days keep men in a perpetual state of little boy hood because they overcompensate and take over control. Then women get mad that there are no "Real Men" out there anymore.
The real focus for a woman who feels comfortable embodying feminine energy is to learn to let go of control in all areas of the relationship. This can be small things like to stop telling a man how to drive or where to park and it can be big things like asking for a commitment or planning all the dates. If a woman is married this idea is taken to the next level. A married woman might learn to let go of control over finances or how a man spends his free time outside of the family. Whatever it may be, the big work for a feminine woman is to learn to connect with herself so she feels more comfortable letting go of controlling her man and the relationship. In the end, it is a false belief that you can control anyone. You will end up exhausted and angry. You can only control how you feel and what you think. So a Feminine Goddess practices letting go each minute of each day. She focus on herself and resides in "Being energy" instead of focusing on her man and living in "Doing energy." This allows for the natural and balancing energies of the Universe to do the dance they were meant to - bringing love, light and magic into the world through a relationship between a man and a woman.
Much Love,
Malena