I Promise to Respect Him Even When I am Smarter

 Acquiesce = To accept something reluctantly but without protest. 

          This is a word I heard today on Dr. Pat Allen’s radio show as she was discussing masculine and feminine energy roles in relationships. Dr. Allen strongly believes that in order for there to be attraction and easy flow in an intimate relationship each person must embody opposite energies.  She says the feminine energy partner is passive, patient and vulnerable. The masculine energy partner is competitive and seeks to conquer and control.  She says it does not matter who is the actual female and male biologically, it’s just that each partner has to take on opposite roles. So a man can be the feminine partner and a woman can be the masculine if a couple agrees and this works for them. Dr. Pat Allen attributes her work to what she calls the quantum physics and ancient wisdom of Yin and Yang Chinese philosophy. She says the more respect you give a man the more he will feel motivated to cherish you. The more a man cherishes his woman’s feelings the more she will soften and respect him by letting him lead. This all sounds beautiful and it really is, except that actual living it is not so easy. I see myself as a feminine woman and I am having such a difficult time with letting go of control and respecting my man's lead. I am able to let go of control in most areas in my relationship with “El Guapo,” but there are a few areas that I still seem not to be able to. I find myself pretending to let go, but deep down in my heart my heels are dug deep in the ground. I have lived most of my life in relationships embodying masculine energy and the shift away from that feels like death on some days. I feel so strongly that I know better how some things should be and to let go of that feels like plunging off a cliff into a dark deep sea. Yet, since I am a feminine woman and one of my traits is patience, then I will be patient with myself during this learning process. 

So Pat Allen says all feminine women should learn this “How to Love Men" pledge:

"I promise on my honor to respect my man's thoughts, wants and suggestions, even when I know I'm smarter and I could do it better, so help me God. Furthermore, I promise to keep my yang mouth shut unless I have to call the police, a Dr., or a lawyer."

          Now this pledge does not mean you are a doormat or a submissive woman. This means you ACQUIESCE = accept reluctantly, but without protest. I would also like to add you do it in order to reap the benefits of the ancient philosophy of the energies of yin and yang. You do it from a deep place of surrender or it does not work. You really let go of control and you really respect him all the way down until you feel it in your toes. This will allow the natural energies of the universe to fall into place and you will get all that you desire – A man that will adore, cherish, protect and love you.

Much Love,

Malena 

Dr. Pat Allens radio show link - http://latalkradio.com/content/air-empowered-communication