Leaning Back and Standing Still Will Allow Your Man to Come to You

ART: TRACY JAGER

On this blog, I often talk about the concept of leaning back (aka standing still) in a relationship. It is a concept that was developed by Relationship Coach, Rori Raye. It does not matter if you are just dating or married. It is a vital concept in "The Art of Loving a Man" because it is all about staying in your feminine energy and "Being" instead of "Doing." Women have been taught to be masculine and fix problems and manage and control things in relationships. We have lost the art of allowing. To just allow things to be, is so foreign it feels unnatural to us. Yet, as a woman it is the most natural thing we can do. It is a mans job to cherish your feelings, help fix relationship problems, and direct his energy toward you.  So why would you want to stay in your feminine energy? So your man will move into his masculine energy. Once he does this, you and your man can experience balance, polarity attraction and romance. The key to leaning back is that you also stay warm and inviting at the same time. It is an art you learn. Whenever you and your man are experiencing a little friction or he seems to be withdrawing or you are dating a new man, there will come a time you will need to lean back and stand still (being instead of doing). Doing this will create space between you and your man and he will be able to direct his energy toward you when he is ready.

Leaning back (aka standing still) means:

You give up control of your man's behavior - what he is doing or saying

You give up control of the situation and it's outcome 

You do not try to fix anything; you state your feelings and let it be 

You give your man psychological space

You give your man physical space

You create space between you and your man so he can know how he feels and can feel the desire to move toward you and cherish you

You focus on yourself and do something that makes you feel good

You do not whine, pressure or complain

You do not initiate texts, calls or affection 

You do not force him to talk about what he is feeling

You do not stay stuck in your head and obsess and grow  your fear based story

You take emotional ownership and feel your feelings, working through them on your own

If you are just dating, you do not think about the future (creating an instant relationship in your head). You just enjoy each moment with him

Most importantly, you keep your heart open and you stay receptive and inviting to him when he does move toward you.

Much Love,

Malena

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