How do you Communicate Something is Wrong to your Man?

How do you communicate with a man?  - Short and Sweet. You calmly make your I feel..... statements, with no blame or criticism, and then you stop. You don't go on and on about how horrible he is and how awful you feel. You don't throw a pity party and bring up 100's of examples of his bad behavior or your proof why he is so awful now. You say I feel..... I don't want to feel this way and then you give him some kind of guide as to what would make you feel better or how he can fix it. Remember men are action oriented and solution focused. They don't understand the complex world of a woman's emotions. They don't  know grey, they know black and white. They understand that if something is wrong then logically they should fix it. They get overwhelmed by strong negative emotion and it literally makes them shut down. This does not mean you cannot cry and have feelings, but it does mean that you do not attack. It also means you help explain to him how to make you happy again (aka the solution) or you state your feelings and then let it go. It is his job as a man to figure out how to make things better. If he can't make it better, it is your job as a woman to accept that.  Here is another thing about men - When they hear that you are unhappy they take it as a personal attack no matter what. Their goal and sense of pride is in making you happy. So when you are constantly coming to them with your unhappiness (which I believe is 90% your own self-made unhappiness) they feel like failures over and over again. This then makes them pull away from you because all they know is that it does not feel good to be around you. Then when they pull away it triggers you and makes you feel abandoned or like he does not care and you get even more upset. Then he gets overwhelmed by all the negative emotion and pulls away even more. You shut down your heart because you are hurt and he shuts down his heart because he has no idea what is going on or how to fix it.  This is how most relationships fall apart. So in order to not let this happen you have to gain control of your emotional world so you can calmly voice your feelings. This also requires that you learn how to feel your feelings (This part is huge!).You also have to begin to take 100% responsibility for how you feel so you don't blame and attack him and then you extend compassion and grace to your man. Remember if he feels emotional safety (no blame, attack) and kindness from you (which is difficult to do when you are triggered),  he will move mountains to help fix the problems. In the end all he wants is to be your hero. It's a Goddess's job to pave the way for him to accomplish that.