Awareness Of The Insane Mind Will Heal You
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Therapists and relationship coaches are always telling you to heal the broken parts of yourself in order to attract a healthy and loving relationship. While this is true, many do not tell you how to exactly do this. The popular belief is that healing is done by talking about your issues and or understanding your childhood traumas etc. Well for many years I talked and analyzed myself to death and it never resulted in a more functionally healthy relationship with a man. It was not until I searched for a spiritual solution that the real changes came. In my search for a spiritual solution to my worldly problems I learned about the nature of the ego (aka lower mind). I first learned about this from authors Eckhart Tolle and Marianne Williamson. Then I came across it again while reading the book “The Untethered Soul” by Michael Singer. Michael Singer really taught me about the nature of the mind and how to become a witness to it’s drama. When I developed this awareness I was finally able to calm down and become less emotionally destructive and reactive with the man in my life. Developing the higher mind that can bear witness to the restless and problematic mind is what heals you. You become detached from the crazy story that triggers you in relationships. Most importantly you are able to handle uncomfortable feelings and manage your emotions which brings safety to your man. Now that I am married this awareness still proves to be the key. It not only helps me in my loving relationship with my husband, but also my children and work. See excerpt below.
Michael A. Singer from The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
“Because there is no part of you that you’re not willing to see, the mind is no longer divided into the conscious and subconscious…
“There is simply pure energy pouring inside of you that creates the ripples of thoughts and emotions, and there is the consciousness that’s aware of it. There is simply you watching the dance of the psyche.
“In order to reach this state of awareness, you must let your entire psyche surface. Every little separated piece of it must be permitted to pass through.
“Right now, many fragmented parts of your psyche are held within you. If you want to be free, it all has to be equally exposed to your awareness and released.
“But it will never get exposed if you’re closing yourself...
“Once you close, you have to make sure that what you protected doesn’t get disturbed. You then carry this task for the rest of your life.
“The alternative is to become conscious enough to simply watch the part of your being that is constantly trying to protect itself. You can then give yourself the ultimate gift by deciding not to do that anymore…
“You start by watching life and noticing the constant flow of people and situations that hit your stuff every day. How often do you find yourself trying to protect and defend…
“The reward for not protecting your psyche is liberation.
“….We normally attempt to solve our inner disturbances by protecting ourselves. Real transformation begins when you embrace your problems as agents for growth.
“In order to understand how this process works, let’s examine the following situation. Imagine that you have a thorn in your arm that directly touches a nerve. When the thorn is touched, it’s very painful…”
“This thorn is a constant source of disturbance, and to solve the problem you only have two choices. The first choice is to look at your situation and decide that since it’s so disturbing when things touch the thorn, you need to make sure nothing touches it.
“The second choice is to decide that since it’s so disturbing when things touch the thorn, you need to take it out.
“Believe it or not, the effects of the choice you make will determine the course of the rest of your life. This is one of the core level, structural decisions that lays the foundation for your future.
“…If you decide you have to keep things from touching the thorn, that becomes the work of a lifetime…
“This is what people do. They let the fear of their inner thorns affect their behavior. They end up limiting their lives just like someone living with an external thorn.
“Ultimately, if there is something disturbing inside of you, you have to make a choice…
“Do not doubt your ability to remove the root cause of the disturbance inside of you. It can really go away…”
“How do you free yourself? In the deepest sense, you free yourself by finding yourself.
“You’re not the pain you feel…None of these disturbances have anything to do with you. You are the one who notices these things. Because your consciousness is separate and aware of these things, you can free yourself.
“…Because you’re always doing something to avoid feeling them, they are not given the chance to naturally work themselves out. If you want, you can simply permit the disturbances to come up, and you can let them go.
“Since your inner thorns are simply blocked energies from the past, they can be released. The problem is, you either completely avoid situations that would cause them to release, or you push them back down in the name of protecting yourself.”
Michael A. Singer from The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
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