Goddess Secret #1 - Acceptance and Surrender

When we find ourselves in relationships that are causing us overwhelming emotional pain there is only one thing that can truly help - complete and absolute acceptance and surrender to the situation and experience. Many women find my blog because they are desperately trying to figure out how to make their relationships work or how to get their men to commit or love them better. The answer to all of this is complete acceptance and surrender to the situation. The reason this is the answer is because this is where deep transformation happens. When a man or situation hurts us it is because they/it are triggering something inside us that brings up our dark feelings. We don’t want to feel this so instead we try to get the man/situation to change. What if the answer is to do the opposite? What if instead of trying to change the situation/man we accept it and sink deep into the uncomfortable feelings. What if we took a deep breath and dove into the abyss that we so desperately keep running from. This is complete acceptance and surrender. This is what changes the energy patterns in your heart that attract unhealthy relationships and behaviors in men. We women get so caught up trying to change men that we do not realize the power of transformation inside our own souls. Just take one minute to sit calmly and quietly and say to yourself “I accept and surrender to this situation that feels so painful” Let yourself feel what you are trying to avoid. Just sit and relax and release the energy. Once you practice and learn to accept and surrender to your painful feelings then you become a powerful Goddess! You are a powerful Goddess because even if your man triggers your pain you can handle it because you are already intimate with it. This intimacy with your pain with change your behavior with your man. You will not be so fearful of his words and actions. You will have the main ingredient of a Goddess – control and intimacy with her emotional world. Once you carry this energy of a Goddess your vibe changes and on an unconscious level your man will begin to see you differently. He will see you as a mysterious and powerful creature that can be vulnerable and feel her dark feelings yet have the strength to not unleash her madness on the world. He will be captivated by the way you are able to be strong on the inside, yet soft on the outside. You will exude emotional safety which is what all men unconsciously want. Lately, in my relationship with “El Guapo” I have practiced acceptance and surrender with a few things that have felt bigger then I can handle. It has worked miracles. The key for me is when I stopped looking for the situation/El Guapo to change and focused on finding peace no matter what was happening in relationship. My only goal is inner peace and the world and my man can be turbulent but through acceptance and surrender I stay centered.     

Much Love,

Malena