A True Goddess Knows The Secrets of Energy and Love
"Respecting a man's masculine energy and expressing that respect through appreciation and surrendering control will result in more trust and affection in your relationship. He will begin to appreciate you for your feminine, receiving, feeling, creative energy when you appreciate him for his thinking, doing, anaylzing, managing energy. This dance of opposite energies will allow love and passion to flow through the relationship freely." Quote by Rori Raye
One of the most important philosophies in relationship dynamics is the concept of balancing the feminine and masculine energies between two people in love. This concept is also the most widely misunderstood. Every legitimate relationship coach knows the work of Dr. Pat Allen and her ideas on masculine and feminine energies. She developed her theory based on the work of psychologist Carl Jung who studied the Taoist concept of Yin and Yang energies. Carl Jung believed that the human personality was characterized by two similar elements: anima and animus. Whether you would like to call it yin and yang, anima and animus or feminine and masculine it does not matter. The balancing of these energies is what is needed for a relationship to establish a flow and balance that generates lasting love and attraction. The idea is that men operate from their masculine (anima/yang) energy. They were built to take action, control, lead and think logically. They even receive a chemical reward (dopamine) from engaging in these type of activities and behaviors. Whereas, women operate from their feminine (animus/yin) energy and are wired to be intuitive, feel, be sensitive, receive, and be creative. These two energies must exist more in one person then the other to have a balanced energetic flow and to create polarity attraction. Now Dr. Allen will be the first to tell you that you can be a woman who operates from her masculine energy, but then this type of woman will not fare well with a masculine man. The energy dynamic will be one of competition. A man will not feel right around this woman. He will not feel an attraction of opposite energy if a woman is operating like a man. Therefore a woman has to choose which energy/vibe she is going to operate from and then must find a man who is opposite energy to compliment her. Most women want a masculine man to provide love and romance, protect and cherish her. Therefore, she must operate from her feminine energy to compliment his masculine.
Diving deeper into this idea is Dr. Pat Allen’s theory that a man’s unconscious desire is to have his thoughts respected and a feminine woman’s unconscious desire is to have her feelings cherished. The main idea here is that if you respect a man’s thoughts and let him lead the relationship, manage and control things, he will cherish your feelings and bend over backward to make you happy. This is because you will be honoring a place deep inside him and will be a balance to his energy. Now this dynamic is not for everyone, but let me assure you it reaps wonderful rewards. The most difficult thing for a modern woman is to defer to a man and just relax and allow him to lead, manage and control things. It feels uncomfortable and vulnerable. Yet, vulnerability is the elixir to passion and romance in your relationship. He needs you to let go of control and be vulnerable to him. This activates his masculine energy which then is used to care for and romance you. If you try to challenge a man and meet his masculine energy with yours, he will feel threatened and withdraw his love and attention. He will not feel motivated to make you happy because you emasculate him. A man needs to feel respected to feel the internal motivation to please you. For over a year I have practiced the art of feminine energy and have allowed my masculine man to lead. It is crazy how many times in one day I catch myself wanting to control and manage him and the relationship. I want to make the plans, direct the future of the relationship, initiate affection, tell him how to fix his problems, etc…. but I refrain every time. I just stay still and appreciate him for the role he does play in being the “Man.” Because of this I get to enjoy his gifts of adoration, love, affection and romance. Balancing these energies is the key to a successful relationship. It is all about a woman letting go of control and staying in her Animus/Yin/Feminine energy. She must trust in herself and her man and the universal law of polarity and equilibrium.
Much Love,
Malena Violeta