The Love Spell - Emotional Attraction
“For most men, a lasting commitment isn't just a matter of choosing a woman and saying "Yes." It takes a specific set of ongoing experiences to get a man to keep opening up and to learn to love and share more deeply as time goes on.” By, Christian Carter www.catchhimandkeephim.com
What makes a man want to ask you out again, commit to you and stay connected and engaged with you while in a long term commitment? The answer is emotional attraction (a term used by Relationship Coach, Christian Carter). So what exactly is emotional attraction? It is your vibe, your energy, your way of being and relating with a man. If you are fearful, anxious and insecure your emotional vibe will feel like a pulling energy on your man. It will feel needy and gooey to him and he will find many ways to distance himself. If you are bitter, walled off and critical, it will make him feel bad and consciously or unconsciously he will work longer hours, emotionally withdraw, spend more time with his friends or worst case scenario have an affair. Yet, if you are in control of your emotions and know how to feel and process your feelings, then day in and day out you will feel like the goddess you are. You will be light, easy and calm and your vibe will flow. You will exude love, sensuality and playfulness.
Understanding emotional attraction is important because the biggest determining factor to whether a man commits to you and/or continues to show love and affection is how he feels when he is around you. This concept is vital to understanding men. Men want to feel like they make you happy and when you are happy around them they take it as a personal success. The key for a Goddess is to create your own internal happiness and then let your man experience it through you. He gets to join the party that is you! When a man experiences moments of joy and making his woman happy, over and over again, he begins to feel an intense level of emotional attraction. This is your love spell. This is how he is drawn to you and wants to stay by your side. Goddess energy is powerful and it is the energy a man needs and craves.
Exercise: How many times a day do you share with your man how something he did or said made you feel wonderful, comforted or happy? If your relationship is rocky, then start with small things. Tell your man 2x each day something he did to make you feel good/comforted or happy. Focus on his good. Things will start to shift and it will build momentum.