Four Magical Relationship Secrets

Sometimes, I think too long and hard about what to write. I always want to bring my readers something new, some exciting ideas, or healing techniques. Today, I decided I am going to share four secret things that work like magic in my relationship/marriage. I say secrets because the truth is many women do not know about them and those that do rarely put them into practice.

As many of my readers know, three years ago, I married my emotionally unavailable, commitment-phobic man. We dated for four years before we married and I was the needy, chasing, pursuing, love addict and he was the cautious, uncertain, distancing, love avoidant. We did that dance for four awful years until my heart hurt so badly I became ferocious in my quest to find the secrets to creating deep, real, romantic love.

“ I was the needy, chasing, pursuing, love addict”

During my intense discovery period, I learned many important secrets about love. The first thing is that a man does not want to feel like he must emotionally carry a woman in a relationship. If he feels that she relies on him for her self-worth, security, and sense of wholeness, he will immediately lose attraction for her. A man must feel a woman is his equal or better than him in order for his attraction to stay activated. So, this means a woman must know her own mind and emotions intimately, and she must know how to manage them without relying on another person’s behavior (her man) to change. She must be in control of her thoughts and emotions so she has room to connect with a man’s heart. This is #1 and it’s called creating emotional safety. A man that feels emotionally safe with a woman he is attracted to will allow himself to open up to her and move the relationship along. He will be willing to take a risk and commit.

“A man does not want to feel like he must emotionally carry a woman in the relationship”

The second thing a man needs is to feel his life is better because of his woman. That means a woman must bring her man a feeling of softness, sensuality, love, playfulness, and connection. This is important because a man is capable of staying single, but he wants love in his life and is willing to work for it if it is an enjoyable experience. You see a man feels death symbolically every day. He feels this as a consequence of being in the world and having the pressures of many roles, including pursuing a purpose and obtaining success. Men want and need a woman to bring love into their lives. They want a woman to give them the will to live and enjoy life. This is secret # 2 and it means a woman becomes the embodiment of light and love for her man.

“A man feels death symbolically every day”

The third thing a man needs is for you to inspire him to grow spiritually. By this, I mean that he evolves out of the little boy, Peter Pan archetype, and learns to love something more than himself. Through the inspiration of a Goddess, a man will learn to love a woman more than himself and put her feelings ahead of his own. He develops a deep desire to provide, protect, and deeply love. His purpose in life shifts as he develops a dual purpose to master the world and cherish his woman above all else. He moves mountains to make his woman happy because he has taken on responsibility for something greater than his own self-centered pleasures. This is secret #3 and it means a Goddess has the power to inspire a man to become the embodiment of the divine masculine (with deep presence he provides, protects and cherishes his feminine lover).

“He loves a woman more than himself and puts her feelings ahead of his own”

Lastly, secret #4 is that a man needs his hero archetype activated. This is done by simultaneously meeting a man's deep unconscious desire to have his thoughts respected. When you respect the thinking of a masculine man, you set the foundation for activating a man’s hero. How do you do this? First, you use your feminine energy to surrender control, then you allow yourself to receive his gifts, direction, and leadership. Then, you share your appreciation over and over until a beautiful cycle develops - he gives - you receive - you show appreciation - he feels like he has succeeded - he is a hero and feels inspired to give more. Remember this all must be deeply authentic. Also, it takes time to get to this level of energy exchange.

So, there are my four secrets to creating a beautiful relationship! They are Goddess secrets. They are magical and they work. I live them, and my relationship and life keep getting better with each day. Keep them in mind and let them open you to new experiences. Use them as vehicles for your own growth and healing. Share them with other women in confidence and let them lift your relationship to unimagined heights.

Much Love,

Malena xoxo

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