Painkiller or Vitamins?
I heard a business mentor say today - “does your relationship coach offer you a painkiller or vitamins?” I thought that was a brilliant analogy to describe the two roads available to a woman when she decides to address the problems in her love life. A painkiller is when you decide to change the man in your life, one after the other because things keep going wrong. A painkiller is when you change the type of man you are dating or come up with some strict boundaries in your dating life. On the other hand, a vitamin is when you figure out what your unresolved emotional issues are and learn to cultivate awareness around them. A vitamin is also when you muster up the strength to feel your past pain in the present moment. Really feel it! Like feel it until it feels like you might explode or die. This is like swallowing a whole handful of vitamins. As I coach women I always offer vitamins not painkillers. Everything else seems like a distraction and long road to nowhere.
One of my current clients is beautiful, smart, femininely charming and open hearted and loving. We have been working on bringing awareness to her triggers, leaning back and doing feeling/body work to transmute her old stored painful energy. She is doing AMAZING and it has been such a pleasure watching her grow and change. One of the greatest things to witness is how when she changes, her man changes (for the better). The more she focuses on herself, the more he seems magnetized to her. The more she doesn’t blame him, the more he pulls her close. The more she leans back, the more he pursues her. It’s like magic! With her permission I am posting her testimonial below. I’m sharing it to keep the hope alive for women out there that are feeling discouraged or losing hope.
“When I first started working with Malena I was completely disconnected from myself, I didn’t realize that intimacy and deep connection with others can only come once we feel safe enough to have that level of intimacy with ourselves. Through learning how to track sensations in my body, I have opened my heart to ME, and learned to dissolve the triggers and stories in my head. While not perfect I have the tools I need to re-center in any given moment. If you are ready to transform your world from inside to out, there’s no one better than Malena to gently guide you on that journey.”
This woman has done a lot of hard work and been relentless in her pursuit of emotional mastery. Our work together centered very much on transmuting energy by feeling sensations in her body. See her amazing feeling statements below.
Anxiety - “My fingertips are buzzing”
Fear - “my throat feels like it’s being twisted shut”
Fear - “pressure building in my heart, explode out of my chest”
Fear - “my stomach is being sucked out of my body backwards through my spine”
Happy - “I’m light, white magic angel feathers cover my arms”
“My heart feels safe and calm like it’s been wrapped in a soft cashmere blanket”
Her feeling statements are at the heart of being a Goddess. Remember once you are comfortable with feeling your pain, you are free! You are free because you lose the fuel for the horrible story that keeps sabotaging you and the man you love.
Much Love,
Malena
For personal coaching contact me: theartoflovingaman@gmail.com
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