Attraction and your Mystery as a Woman

"You can make a man feel attraction, devotion and lifelong desire to make you happy in the simplest ways - by being so comfortable in your own skin, and at such a deep level, that he finds  you endlessly mysterious and yet totally emotionally SAFE to be with.

And yet we've all been taught the exact wrong ways to create mystery and safety.

In fact, the ways we've been taught to attract a man work AGAINST US.

A man feels attracted to the UNKNOWN (that's YOU - just because you're a woman), and he has to feel safe enough to ENTER that unknown world we women live in." 

Above excerpt from Relationship Coach, Rori Raye

     Attraction is an interesting concept. In the past when I have thought of attraction in intimate relationships I only thought of physical attraction. It never occurred to me that there was such a thing as emotional attraction. As I study relationship dynamics, I realize emotional attraction is one of the most important elements to why a man chooses one woman over another. A man is attracted to two things emotionally. He is attracted to the your sensual world. Your unique abilities as a woman to use your senses to experience the world in a deep way. It's the way you taste, smell and touch the world. The second thing he is attracted to is the beautiful, messy, deep waters of your emotions. How you cry at the movies, or see a homeless person and melt with sadness. How you find joy in the smile of a baby or stop and smell the spring flowers in the air. Men love women because we hold their opposite energies. We hold  the key to the other side of their masculine, thinking, doing energy. In our world men get to temporarily feel the other side of their being through us. We are the gatekeepers of this other world and a man yearns to be in touch with it in order to feel like a complete and whole human being.  Yet, a man must feel emotionally safe with you if he is to allow himself the vulnerability required to enter this world.  If you are not in touch with your emotions and believe that it is a man's job is to make you happy and fulfilled, you will always be upset with him and blaming him for your lack and thus he will not feel emotionally safe with you.  If you do not know how to manage your emotions he will feel like you are capable of implosion at any moment and it will consciously and unconsciously cause him to want to distance himself. 

The key to a man's heart and his attraction for you is emotional safety and the enchanting mysteries of the feminine energies of a Goddess.

     A Goddess provides a man with a safe place to let down his guard and be vulnerable and experience her world. It is this safety he seeks and this mystery that attracts him.  A Goddess welcomes her man home with a warm and loving energy that pulls him toward her.  Once he is able to feel this mix of safety and mystery he steps up for her into his full manhood. He protects, cherishes and gives to her so that he will not lose this experience, this energy, this soft, sweet, safe place. He will move mountains to keep this woman in his life. 

Much Love,

Malena